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I feel the last week has been really stressful and I learnt a costly lesson, through what has happened today. Normally I have no issues with clients they ususally ask me to build them a site, give me the content and hey presto I go about doing the marketing and SEO.
However and I will not be naming anyone but why do people expect something for nothing?
Why do they expect you to slogg your guts out and be beholden to their every whim?
I am saying enough is enough if you hire me to do a job do not question why I do things a certain way, at the end of the day I am doing it for you not me.
I was recently questioned why I do not use the word “Home” as a Homepage title and when I gave the reasons why rather than take my advice, I was told that other companies in his profession were using the word “Home” and that my title looks silly. So you hire me to do a job and then question my ability even though I know what I am doing.
So my costly mistake was and this is the first time I have ever included it in a contract was a cooling off period when this person asked me to build him a website, then started to add more pages over what we had initially agreed on and stated that most businesses have more than 10 pages. That may be true but they pay to have the extra pages they do not give unlimited pages for £49.99 per month. He announced today he would be looking for another designer, more like he will attempt to do it himself as I have not come across designers charging pittance for what he expected me to do.
So I suspect he may try to build a website himself after all every one has more time on their hands so why not give it a go, that is what I think. The SEO audit report will show me if his site has been built by a professional or not, can’t wait.
So the good soul I am, I have not been charging for web hosting, seo or marketing because of this pandemic as I reckon a lot of people are strapped for cash right now. However do not take advantage of me. If I do not charge you for a website until lockdown is lifted do not start throwing your teddy’s out to the pram if you do not give me the content to the sites and then somehow expect me to do it for you. I should not have to find the content for you as that takes time with research and content writing. i build websites, I should not be building your business also.
It rattles me beyond belief how people are so full of themselves and expect something for nothing. What about me I have to live too.
I am the kind of person I will go above and beyond my call of duty to help someone but if they start taking advantage as I have seen a few of my clients doing lately, I will say enough is enough.
Again I have a client who cannot work due to the Gorvernment guidelines and has to overcome the close proximaty of his clients so not only did I not charge him for the hosting of he site and blog, I also gave him free advertising on a local business directory only to have him go on his high horse, why his dot com domain name was not associated with his site.
Talking SEO goes right over his head and when I was still contemplating if I should use his dot com rather that a dot co dot uk domain name for his blog he goes on a rant and now has gone quiet on me when I told him he is only allocated two hours a month and that he is in a queue. The reason why I am hesitant to use a dot com is because even though you can set your GEO fencing for the domain names, search engines still send you traffic from the location your domain comes from which in the case of a dot com is the USA. So if you happen then to do paid per click advertising your budget will get swallowed up by US traffic not good especailly if you are in the UK.
So I thought I had ample time to update him but obviously not as he was throwing his teddy about and expecting me to drop everything. So what did I do I dropped everything for him and now he has gone quiet, how rude……..
As for the other client I built 40 page website for and he used the get out clause in order for me not to charge him, I also designed a logo and has he offered to pay for it of course he hasn’t even though I told him at the begining how much it would cost and he made me do numerous changes and nothing not even a tiddly wink for my troubles. I hope the client that decided to cool off ahead of payment feels really bad about what he has done. My question to this person is “why bother praising me, bigging me up, saying that I am really clever and know what I am doing and even have an email saying he loves the site only to pull out at the last minute?” I think it is to do with money. Yet what he charges an hour would have cover the costs for the next year renewal of the website.
I really cannot undertand people sometimes, I really cant and I have now lost respect for this person.
I am going to stop being nice and doing people favours as they take advantage of you and that is from being many years in business, people want to negotiate your prices even though you try to be as low in price as possible yet they always want more and still want you to lower your price especailly for them. I have had enough I am not doing it anymore, you either pay me the asking price or you find someone that will do it cheaper but I do not have time to haggle with you over my pricing. You would not go to a solicitor who charges £300 an hour to lower their price for you so why should I lower my prices considering I am building the engine that will bring in the clients.
Is it even worth me invoicing him the £75 for the logo and for him not to pay and then me taking it to a small claims court, I do not think so, it is not worth the time or stress or trouble and all I can say is “what goes around comes around”.
To think that I know how much my clients charge by the hour, my fee is a fraction of one job that they would bring in a month yet they still seem to want more. Sheer greed and being condenscending will eventually catch up with you, so you treat people with kindness and respect.
If you think you know more than me then by all means put me in my place but if you are just a cheapskate and want to cut corners then I am not the person you should be talking to.
Remember treat people like you would want to be treated. If you want to be a miser, people will also do less for you if you want something you want for nothing.
If you look at the national average for a website do not expect to pay basic web design prices and expect more for your money.
I need to get this off my chest as I really want to scream. As you all know I am a web designer and internet marketer to name a few services that I offer and most recently I lost one client because I was discriminated by his partners opinion about me.
Anyway moving on, the day comes when termination of hosting is imminent and after explaining in so much detail that a five year old could understand and after the domain name had changed hands it was inevitable that the website and emails would go down.
So approximately two and a half hours before midnight and final cut off period, the hosting goes down.
Now wait for this, after I had explained that the hosting would go down at which point it did, I get an email saying this person’s emails had gone.
So even after I had said that as soon as the domain crossed over the hosting would go down this was somehow my fault that this person had no access to his emails.
Furthermore they tried to insinuate I had cancelled the agreement and that I was keeping the domain, of which I proved that the domain had changed hands showing whois data.
This must have stung like a slap across the face and did I get an apology for the insinuation I had cancelled the agreemnet, of course I did not.
Afterall these people think they are somehow better than me. All I will say is you reap what you sow. If you are not nice to people, people will not be nice to you.
Obviously like a good person that I am, I stayed up until the early hours trying to retrieve his emails from back up and restore. I looked like an idiot going back to the hosting providers and saying hold on but my client has not backed up his emails and has not set up up new email accounts with his new web designers.
I won’t say what profession he is in but if you knew you would be shocked.
Anyway just make a statement about the new web designer who have made a shambles of my ex-clients new website and to blow my own trumpet I have perfomed a SEO Audit Report on his site and it looks like an amatuer has thrown a wordpress site together.
There is a saying ” Do not fix something that is not broken”.
All I can say is “OMG” how stupid can you get and to think his idiot partner made derogatory comments about my site , I am laughing my cotton socks off.
Obviously for legal reasons I will not mention the person’s name , his profession or his domain name, but do not pretend to be something you are not. It has taken me years to learn about serach engine optimization and web design so for his partner to claim he is some sort of expert is a joke.
My daughter has said it is his loss and when she saw his new site the reaction was “Oh God”.
To think I have wasted a whole day today as I have been going back and forth my hosting providers and being extremly tired I could not focus on what I was planning on doing today, I lost a whole days work.
Anyway moving on I have been working on a local directory and the amount of busineeses that I have come across that do not have a website or if they claim they do in order to not pay website designers they cheat and have stated their websites are in actual fact Facebook pages is beyond comprehendable. Do not be a cheapskate and do half a job. Your brand and reputations says all about presentation. If you have a mediocre WordPress site or Facebook page instead of a website it does not say much about you.
If you cannot be honest to people you cannot be honest to yourself. Meaning if you are lying to the world you have a website but the world lands on your Facebook Page, what is the first thing people will see? I will tell you, it says you do not have money to spend on a website therefore you are not very successful.
The same goes if your website has Powered by WordPress. Any Professional Designer would remove all reference to WordPress. Again I am blowing my own trumpet as I can see how stupid some people are and cannot admit that they either want to cut costs or have financial difficulties but instead come up with a half hearted excuse why they want to change web site deisgners after being with them for half a decade.
I Know that it is down to the other partner and not so much my ex-client but you would have thought in his line of profession he would show some intellect and considering I am an Author and have published two books on Domain Names, Website Design and SEO, you would not try to insult my intelligence.
Moving on I came across a post on Facebook how the local shop owners of Wellfield Road, which is in the vicinity where I live, were irrate about hooligans vandalising the trees strategically planted to stop cars parking on the street. They even went on to say they collectively raised £740 plus to replace the trees that were vandalised.
The whole point of the trees is to maintain social distancing.
Yet the picture paints a thousand words. The whole point of the trees is to stop parking and to maintain social distancing but what do the shop owners do?……….only pose for a group photo without maintaining social disatancing…….The council should fine them all !! Somehow they seem to think they are exempt from the social distancing rule and one wonders why the world is the way it is.
Racism is not just about colour, it much, much, more than that.
Racism, also called racialism which means people are divided into groups.
Racism is prejudice and discrimination.
Peoples actions, practices, or belief reflect the racial worldview—the ideology.
Humans are divided by their physical traits and traits of personality, intellect, morality, and other cultural and behavioural features.
People are taught that some people are superior to others and are taught the difference from one class to another.
Racism is about classes.
Classes can be defined by:
1) Colour (Black, White, Yellow or Green (Martians))
2) Race (What country you were born eg, Mexican, Eastern European, Africa etc)
3) Religion (Catholic, Muslim, Christian, Atheist, Christian etc)
4) Gender (Heterosexual, Bisexual, Gay, Trans etc)
5) Social (Upper class, upper middle class, lower middle class, working class, poor)
6) Physical Appearance
7) Mental Ability (Intellect)
8) Disability (physical and mental)
Now in my own experience, I have been the target of at least six classes of racism and discrimination.
1) From the age of 5 I was cornered outside the school gates and my blazer was spat on from the inside all because I had a foreign name and could not speak English, yet I understood what the children were saying. I also had my name made fun of. From the age of five I was bullied at school.
On another occasion I was pushed down some concrete stairs onto a gravel laden playground in my school in the UK (this was over 50 years ago).
2) In senior school I was targeted for my race, was called names and had physical altercations with bullies in the school of which some are connected with some of my FB friends. I should really name and shame them, but they are not worth the limelight in my opinion and feel total distain towards them.
3) In my adult life my ex boyfriends’ parents would judge me by race and my social class (the parents of the better class to my parents decided I was not a good fit for their son)
4) One of my ex-s judged me by my race and social class with one referring me as a peasant girl or milk maid, as most of Poland is agricultural and a lot of people are farmers, yet I never lived in Poland. This person was an intellect, yet he still found a way to ridicule me.
5) In my adult life my work environment I was once told to change my name by a German businessman that had changed his name to a British name because people judge you by your name. I have since used a British name on my LinkedIn profile simply for that reason and have had my hand forced because people are judgemental.
This is also true as not so long ago I talked about immigration and Brexit on someone’s post and was told to go back to where I came from (the people on that post judged me by name, even though they did not know me or where I was born), even though I was born in the UK and my father fought with the British in WWII. It was not just one person it was a few people that were defensive. All I said was that Eastern European people meaning Poles in general have made a name for themselves as being hard grafting because they are known to work hard as farmers and that is why people assume, they work hard in general. I also said from my experience and I am an employer that foreign workers work harder as they do not have a social benefit system to fall back on. This caused backlash and I immediately blocked each and every troll that jumped on me.
Another time I was judged for my race and social class and was questioned about my location where I live and was asked do I really live in November House or did I make that up and for me to write my real address and eyebrows were raised when the individuals realised, I live in a quarter million-pound house, which was actually called November House.. I even lost a contract most recently as I believe the person judged me by my race and social class. On another occasion I also had derogatory comments made by the mother of a hairdresser thinking that what she said would not get back to me but it did and now this hairdresser will pay the price as they will never be listed in my directory as a top hairdresser in Roath which I have built (www.roathlife.com).
Also due to a time in my life when a racist person also a narcissist tried controlling me, made me an introvert and submissive and this reflected in my appearance and my personality, but people were quick to judge even though they did not know the full story.
I have since learnt no one’s opinion’s matters other than your own.
I also suffer with OCD but I put it down to the fact that most of my life people have been judgemental towards me and have made me the way I am and this is my defence mechanism kicking in to block out people who are negative towards me.
Because people do not understand they tend to judge or ridicule.
Did you know all the following people have or had OCD.
Famous People With OCD
Leonardo DiCaprio suffers from OCD and says that he allowed his condition to worsen in order to play Howard Hughes in “Aviator.”
His childhood memoriess were to step on cracks in the pavement and if he missed any he would have start all over again, even as far as a few blocks.
“Sin City” star Jessica Alba talked about her OCD in an interview with CosmoGirl stating,
“It was like a panic come over me and I had to do something, and once I did it, I was OK. …
It was really me needing to control something.”
Justin Timberlake suffers from OCD that makes him need everything to be organized perfectly.
He also only allows certain foods in his refrigerator.
Pop star Katy Perry suffers from OCD and says that she brushes her teeth 4-6 times a day.
Howie Mandel has been very open about his OCD. He calls handrails his enemy.
Cameron Diaz’s OCD makes her have a fear of germs.
Soccer great David Beckham has admitted to struggling with OCD saying that he has to reorganize hotel rooms in order to feel comfortable.
“Young Adult” star Charlize Theron says that her OCD keeps her up at nights worrying about messy cabinets and closets.
Historians believe that Albert Einstein suffered from OCD, as do many individuals with very high levels of intelligence.
“Vanilla Sky” actress Penelope Cruz is said to suffer from OCD.
Charlie Sheen has OCD and needs things to be in order. He told Dr. Oz that his OCD even propelled him to fix a stranger’s shirt collar at a restaurant.
Jennifer Love Hewitt
“Client List” star Jennifer Love Hewitt thinks the she inherited her OCD from her mother.
Alec Baldwin self-diagnosed his OCD. Baldwin spoke of the frustrating nature of his condition stating,
“The thing is, you always feel the need to do it, mostly when there’s something at stake. Like,
I will literally be leaving my apartment in New York and I’ve got to go to the airport.
The worst possible time is when the bell rings loudest. A voice will say to me, ‘Move the snow globe to the right three inches.”
Michael Jackson had Body Dysmorphic Disorder which is similar to OCD.
“Planet Terror” star Rose McGowan suffers from OCD related to agoraphobia.
“Star Wars” star Harrison Ford says that his OCD is related to his fear of spiders and reptiles.
Donald Trump says that his OCD prevents him from shaking hands with people.
(Which is Fake News in my opinion as I have seen him shake hands).
Director Martin Scorsese suffers from OCD and he explored the depths of the condition in his film “The Aviator.”
Roseanne Barr has struggled with OCD and she talked about her experience with Larry King.
Howard Stern’s OCD developed as a defense mechanism when he was first starting out.
Stern stated, “When I was in college and nervous about entering the world of broadcasting and earning a living, the pressure was enormous. …
As a defence mechanism, my brain had set up an elaborate maze of rituals that kept me from confronting my fear.”
Film maker Woody Allen has OCD and the main subject that he obsesses about is death.
Historians believe that Nikola Tesla suffered from OCD in his later years.
Fiona Apple suffers from OCD and she calls it a problem that can destroy your life.
“Blues Brothers” star Dan Aykroyd suffers from Tourette’s, Asperger’s and OCD.
Researchers believe that Charles Darwin most likely suffered from OCD.
“A Clockwork Orange” director Stanley Kubrick is thought to have had OCD because of the way that he would shoot an excessive amount of takes when filming his movies.
Kathie Lee Gifford
Talk show host Kathie Lee Gifford is thought to have OCD.
Billy Bob Thornton
“Sling Blade” star Billy Bob Thornton calls suffering from OCD exhausting.
TV show host Marc Summers suffers with OCD. Who knows how Summers managed to deal with all of the slimy messes on his Nickelodeon show “Double Dare.”
People speculate that composer Cole Porter most likely suffered from OCD.
Historians believe that Michelangelo suffered from OCD.
Ludwig van Beethoven
Researchers believe that Ludwig van Beethoven displayed many symptoms of OCD.
Entrepreneur and film maker Howard Hughes suffered for OCD and used to obsess over the size of peas.
Later in his life, Hughes became a recluse and continuously watched movies.
Historians believe that Samuel Johnson likely suffered from OCD.
Researchers find that Stonewall Jackson demonstrated many of the symptoms of OCD.
Talk show host Jeremy Kyle suffers from OCD.
“Werewolves of London” songwriter Warren Zevon suffered from OCD.
He developed a friendship with fellow OCD sufferer Billy Bob Thorton later in his life.
Historians believe that “A Christmas Carol” author Charles Dickens likely suffered from OCD.
Historians believe that Marcel Proust suffered from OCD.
Limp Biscuit front man Fred Durst says that suffering from OCD makes touring really tough.
Gerald Kaufman has self-diagnosed his OCD.
Joey Ramone had a severe case of OCD and low self-esteem.
John Melendez, better known as “Stuttering John,” suffers from OCD, just like his good friend and boss Howard Stern.
Pop singer Natalie Appleton suffers from a mild case of OCD.
British actress/musician Jane Horrocks has been diagnosed with OCD.
Soccer star Steven Gerrard’s OCD manifests itself as constant hand washing.
British actress Emily Lloyd has gotten treatment for OCD and she blames the disorder for stalling her career.
Soccer star Paul Gascoigne suffers from OCD as well as other mental illnesses.
Soccer player Tim Howard had a tough time in school coping with his OCD.
Actor Ian Puleston-Davies has OCD and a fear of germs.
Baseball player Jim Eisenreich was diagnosed with Tourette’s and OCD.
Volkert van der Graaf
Murderer Volkert van der Graaf has been diagnosed with OCD and Asperger’s.
So my OCD does not make me a freak or a lunatic, you would not say that about all the above names so you should not say that about me.
I have maintained social distancing way before the covid-19 coronavirus pandemic and have created a bubble that the government now wants us all to adhere to.
It’s ironic that the whole world is forced to become OCD (Contamination) aware, yet I have been doing it for years.
I have even been judged for having a disability.
So, the point is people will never change Racism. Racism will always exist because people will always be judgemental and discriminating, because people are taught to be superior.
It all starts in the classroom. Schools should teach that Racism is not ok, but they do not why is that?
One reason could be if we were all taught that we are all equal we would not have high expectations we all be sheep without leaders, hence in order to have leaders you need to have people who are superior to you.
Social Classes do not mix you will never have Upper Class people hanging out with the poor population, unless its for publicity.
Leaders are then not equal to you, as they may have a higher social class and may be more intellectual.
There will always be leaders and there will always be followers.
Because we are all segregated into groups, it.s who ever is on top of the food chain will always control Racism.
Some examples of such incidents are as follows:
Trump said he was building a Mexican wall and branded Mexicans as drug dealers, illegal immigrants and thieves. I have a lot of Mexican family all highly educated, from Doctors, Dentist, Midwives and Priests, but all it takes is for one person from the highest social class to segregate people into classes all because of one opinion.
It is a well-known fact that Eastern European people judge and discriminate people by race, religion, social class, disability and appearance. I know Polish people that judge by colour, race, social class, religion and gender, disability and appearance, try telling a Polish person you are gay or are an atheist or have a mental disability and see their reactions.
I am not saying all people are racist but we can seperate people into groups.
I have seen and heard with my own eyes and ears judgmental things that my very own family and friends have said, and it is disgraceful, which I am so ashamed to admit to and am ashamed to call them family or friends. In my defence I have always stood up to my friends and family and tried to explain that their beliefs are totally wrong, which has got me into trouble and many arguments.
Did you know that in Russia you will get arrested if you are seen to be holding hands or kissing the same gender as yourself or you openly admit you are gay?
People judge others by:
The designer clothes and materialist things they wear and own.
Their appearance and how smart they dress
The way they speak (does every other word becomes a swear word or does one speak Queens English)
The job they have, the janator to the director
The car they drive, the Skoda to the Ferrarri
The location they live. Each place has a down town district.
The people they hang out with.
People are equal, no matter what walk of life we seem to be in and what title we may have, we all have red blood, we all do the same routines to survive, we eat, sleep and dream of making money and have a place to live.
The colour of a person should not define us just because someone somewhere once said that we are different, we are not different we all the same and we all do the same things to survive.
Disabilities should not matter either ‘Stephen Hawkings’ suffered from ‘ALS’ he was wheelchair bound yet he was a British theoretical physicist, cosmologist and author and will always be admired all over the world. Yet people are discriminating, they may not say it out loud but sometimes their actions speak louder than words.
Like I said before not everyone is racist or discriminating and some do fight to change the system, but the system will never change.
Just because someone somewhere is unintelligent and only crap comes out of their mouths, we should be the better person and decided their opinions do not matter.
If we are going to take down tv shows or monuments, why not start suing everyone that has made judgemental comments towards us. I could start suing all my bullies from school and the schools themselves for not preventing all the trauma I endured which caused me to have a mental disability. I have not forgotten so in retrospect I suffer with PTSD. I should also sue all my ex’s that called me names, ridiculed me and disrespected me.
In my opinion if there is a show that is deemed to be offensive to some people, just get a grip, do not bloody well watch it is all I have to say.
Some of us are intelligent enough to recognise tongue in cheek humour.
People have too much time on their hands and rather than sitting down and learning something new like reading a book and to make the world a better place, they choose to judge and criticise and be negative, as that is all they are mentally able to do.
People who are more intellectual will go above and beyond the problem and will try to fix the problem without causing more problems.
At the end of the day I choose not to have negative people in my life. I believe only my opinion matters and no one else’s and if people do not have time for me, I do not have time for them. Yes, I have many online connections but physical I only have a few as mingling with people who are false is a waste of my time.
Anti-Racism is respect to the person that may not have the same advantages as you, but you see them as an equal, anti-racism is the power to not discriminate.
Racism is about judging and discrimination and anyone that judges and discriminates is a Racist.
People in all walks of life have someone they know who thinks they are better than everyone else.
The may claim to be experts even though they blag their way through life to gain the attention and respect they so crave.
Whether it is business or at home there is always an elimant of self worth where we try to prove we are sometimes something we are not.
Just because we may have a title, a badge are a celebrity, royalty or a tycoon, does not give anyone the right to treat others the way you would not like to be treated. Just because you have money, are a director of a company does not give you the right to be unkind, use and abuse and be cruel. Money does not bring you happiness, enriching other people brings you happiness and respect.
You do not gain respect for how much money you have in your bank, you gain respect by teaching others how you made that money and how you can empower that individual to also be as successful as you.
The “Do Unto Others” Bible Verse
Matthew 7:12 – “So in everything, do unto others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.”
Its can be borderline narcissistic to look down ones nose at another being for what ever reason we so choose.
We should not judgeor make innuendos and sit on our thrown casting stones, we should also not use or abuse people and treat people badly especially the vulnerable.
However people with money and power think they can buy what ever they want and treat people without any respect. We in society are segregated into classes and the people on the top of the food chain are usually the ones that do not care what happens to the ordinary folk, that is why the world is the way it is. Unfortunately I cannot change the world single handily.
Did you know there is a chemical our brains produce when we do something kind or witness another person being kind?, it is called ‘Oxytocin’ The chemical is responsible for feeling love and connection and the more kinder you are the more people are enriched and also do kind things in return.
People want to be respected yet not everyone does get that privilege and there are many especially in business the higher up the ladder they sit, the more mightier some people seem to think they are.
As an example I know of a certain individual without mentioning any names that has sat on his high chair claiming to be an expert in more than one field. This person was once a startup and he too yearnes the respect yet he shows none to others.
I put it down to the fact he is feeling insecure about himself so he spouts out atrocities to feel better about himself without actually realising what he has done to the other person that he may in fact not know very well.
Before casting stones think what it will do to the other person. Some people cannot handle critisism and this may actually tip them over the edge.
Do you want to be that peron that has pushed another too far?
Would you be able to sleep at night if you knew someone had harmed themselves because of you.
Just because you feel intimidated do not intimidate someone else to make yourself feel better.
Some of the greatest entrepreneurs of our time have struggled with fear and self doubt. Just because they hide behind their clean and crisp shiny suites does not make them “super ceo’s”. You cannot know for certain what is going through someones mind when you make detrimental comments about another person. You do not know what the other person has gone through when you make your own opinions about that person.
Here are some tips about gaining respect and teaching it to others.
1. Respect yourself.
I learnt the hard way and this is why I can hold my head up high, someone elses opinion is insignificant to me.
You are your own boss and you control your own destiny.
Without sounding cliche, no one will respect you unless you respect yourself. Love yourself and people will love you.
By showing respect to other people and being kind you in turn will be rewarded for your honorable and courteous behavior.
Remember only you know your self worth and no one can make assumptions without knowing your full story. Do not claim to be someone your are not.
2. To get respect, give respect.
Do not throw stones in glass houses. You do not want to be spoken about badly behind your back so do not speak ill of people when they are not around. People around you want just as much respect as you do. Think of this way karma has a way of pay you back, do not tempt fate as you may end up holding the other side of the coin. Afterall you should still be courteaus and respectful to the person who may be disrespectul to you as this will make you the bigger person. To gain their respect show interest in them and try and contribute by being helpful.
3. Finding a mentor.
By growing a network of like minded people you have the opportunity to be respected because of what you have to say, humans are very complex labyrinthine beings, with only a handful of people whose names are immediately recognizable and well respected. If you are able to learn from someone who is well known in their field of expertise you will find people will follow you like lambs and will be eager to learn from you. By having a great following of people especially on social media you will naturally gain the respect you so rightfully deserve. By having a large network of people interested in your niche you will not only learn from others but you will also be able to teach what you have learnt.
4. Mentoring Others.
By mentoring others and helping them climb the ladder of success not only will this help others it will also help you. If you can invest your time teaching others this will in turn cause a ripple effect and the ones you teach will then be able to teach others and will avoid costly mistakes, yet will always refer to the mentor that originally taught them and you will then gain notoriety and respect.
By enriching the lives of others you will be remembered and referred to and in time you would have built your own legacy.
5. Honesty is the best policy
Do not pretend to be something you are not. The best way to gain respect is to communicate face to face. If something is bothering you or you are not sure about, talk it over, do not hide behind your superior ego.
I had someone most recently without any explanation terminate an agreement. Rather than talk things over to see what they felt was not working for them they chose to cut their losses only to realise that they had infact lost more than they had bargained for.
Through their ill representation of someone who claimed to be an expert in more than one field they had in fact lost several thousands ££££ of advertising and looking at their analytics report a lot of business too and they will not hold global positioning on a local search directory because of the their mistake.
Yet had they have stayed they would have been dominated in their industry and would have held exact match searchable keyword domain names all because of misguidance by someone sitting on their high throne. As an example I have written many contracts in my time but that does not make me a solicitor, so the same could be said for the individual who also claims to be a SEO expert.
All it would have taken was communication from the other Director and his assocociates to resolve the matter.
Not only that they will now how to start from scratch and it will cost them an arm and a leg to get back what they had and more.
There is a saying you reap what you sow. They would have had more repsect from me had they talked things over.
As my daughter now says its their loss.
People value authenticity and honesty more than they value respect and by not being honest and transparent they have now bitten off more than they can chew.
6. Self Representation & Appearance
I will reflect back to a time when I was in a toxic relationship and everything I owned was destroyed and everytime I replaced things these things would get destroyed also, so I stopped replacing them until I could free myself from the toxicity in my life.
This obviously showed in my appearance as I started to play down my appearance and my personality and kept myself to myself. The fear of being humiliated for looking nice was my ultimate sacrifice until I could rebuild my life. But there were certain individuals that chose to be judgemental without knowing the full story and not only did I have to put up with toxicity in my personal life I was faced with snide comments in my work environment.
So I chose to take a stand and remove myself from the people that were weighing me down. This was like the world had lifted off my shoulders. I did not have to prove myself to no one. Either these people accepted me for whom I was or not at all.
I did learn something though looks matter, people are judgemental and I started to love myself again and have started to respect myself although deep down I always respected myself, but found that other people did not.
I started blooming again after so many years of being a closed flower bud. Whenever I went out which was very rarely pre covid -19, I chose to look smart, I wanted to show the world I had picked myself up again and that I was ready to face anyone, holding my head up tall.
You don’t need to earn a lot of money to look smart or professional, you just got to look the part.
By looking great you not only look nice, you also feel better about yourself and are more confident. Your behaviour will reflect your personality and people will take notice and will show you more respect. Looking great, walking tall with your head up high makes you look successful and you feel in your mind you can conquer the world, however looking slouched and you posture not straight gives people a different impression.
I also know my self worth, I also have published 3 books and am writing 2 more. I am well respected in my industry. If you think badly of me then it is your loss not mine.
7. Surround yourself with positive people.
Surrounding yourself with like minded positive people that understand how you think, you will benefit from your friendship with them, from their teachings, makes you a more assertive individual. If on the other hand you constantly associated with negative, depressing, artificial, or critical people, this will boil over to your own personality and you too will act and think like these people.
The most certain way to gain respect is to be associated with people that show respect to others and do not talk about others behind their backs in a negative way.
Respect grows in a self-reciprocal way. When others respect you, you feel confident and you then respect them back.
8. Stay Knowlegableand Teach Well.
When someone is eager to learn and is thankful for your teaching you will gain respect.
If you are associated with a person who is defensive, arrogant, condescending, and totally unteachable, not only are you wasting your valuable time with them, you are also weighing yourself down with a person that refuses to learn and refuses to show respect. These people who do not want to help themselves have pretty much given up on themselves, they think they can do as they please without consequences.
There are always consequences with our actions.
If the person that wants to learn everything, will listen, they will be the ones that will show you respect for the knowlege you have passed on to them.
Respect should be appreciated in your home, your work and private life and in all walks of life.
There are so many people in the news nowadays that do not show respect, from the Police in the USA that killed “George Floyd” because they thought they were better than him and hid behind their shield to gain authority, to “Jefferey Epstein” and the dirty old men that thought using and abusing young females, was completely fine and had little regard for these girls as they had no esteems themselves. No matter who you are and where you come from and what title you hold, you should always show respect to other people.
If you stripped your titles and you were left in the room with your arched enemy and there was only the two of you left to save the world would you kill each other or would you help one another? The same goes if you needed a blood transfusion in order to live would you die or would you take the blood from your enemy who was willing to save your life? These are all hypothetical scenarios but you get the drift.
Respect is not a commodity that can be bought, traded, sold, or exchanged, respect can only be earned or lost. Yet in the case of “Jefferey Epstien” he tried buying respect with money. Eventually everything comes out and in the case of “Jefferey’s” partner who has gone into hiding “Ghislaine Maxwell” the daughter of “Robert Maxwell” will she ever gain the respect from all the girls that were abused or the rest of the world for that matter?, only the artificial people in her life will continue to look up to her. Did I forget to mention there is bounty on her by “The Sun Newspaper” of £10,000 reward for her wherabouts.
No matter who you are, showing respect to others you will gain admiration, appreciation, and respect naturally without having to use unnecessary means or paying for it as in the case of the Police in the George Floyd & Jeffery Epstein cases. Preying on vulnerable young girls and taking advantage of them them does not make you a Prince or a President, it makes you not a worthy person.
People are not garbage, people have feelings and we are all on this planet together all trying to do the same thing and that is to survive and build a bigger brighter future for generations to come.
Consider the consequences of your actions next time you say or do something bad to another individual.
I am sure I am not the only one saying this but working from home on Lockdown is starting to really get to me.
People who know me well, know that I do normally work from home anyway so there should be no difference, yet there is…
Firstly you have the neighbours doing DIY, banging and drilling, to standing outside your property chatting away with passers by for hours on end, interrupting your thought process and your work.
Or there is your household where normally my teenage daughter is in college but because of this lockdown she is at home, staying up until the early hours with her boyfriend playing xbox games and watching ‘Gordon Ramsey’. So your saying well what is wrong with that, well let me tell you.
The volume of the TV is usually very loud so every day I say “can you turn the volume down”, which in turn is me being unreasonable and being a pain in the posterior.
At least I have my mornings in peace to do my work, which is not so bad is it? So here I go on my rant……………, firstly I will say what my day consists of i) I I have to check my messages and respond. ii) Then I have to open my chat widgets for my business and my clients businesses, iii) then I do website development and marketing which my blog is part of my advertising structure and then finally iiii) I need to make phone calls. You can see the scenario unfolding when I start making calls and I have my daughter and her precious Prince of a boyfriend who have stayed up all night long to only come into my room and complain about me talking loud on the phone……Excuse me if I am missing something am I not trying to run a business here? Am I the only one keeping a roof over my head and who pays the bills? Secondly if I did not do what I do no one would be able to eat but I still feed my daughters boyfriend and not once has he offered to give me any money for food……….OK he has recently been laid off and is struggling to pay the bills and he has my daughter bailing him out, would I take any money from him?, most probably not but it would be nice to offer as a way to show you are a decent human being. So in theory the money that I earn that I give to my daughter goes to her boyfriend who would rather play games all day and all night long rather than go and stack shelves in Tesco’s.
Then there is my blog which I think it helps my readers and businesses whom can learn a thing or two from me, but because the car dealer company yesterday in my previous post asked whom I was referring to, which I really did not want to say but thought seeing as I was put on the spot said my daughter boyfriend name, this in turn caused unrest in the household as the company then rang my daughter’s boyfriend and asked if he had complained. This in turn then opened a can of worms and I had to then ‘Explain Myself’ to him why I had mentioned him in the first place. He seemed not bothered and said he understood and then behind my back he then went on a rant to say how dare I use his name (how two faced) I was not going to use his name I just wanted to find out why this company was not being PCI compliant and hopefully save someone from having their card cloned. (Why do I have to explain myself to anyone on this planet as a matter of fact?) So now I am not allowed to write what I want on my blogs (which in theory is interfering with my business) just in case it offends anyone (like my daughter’s precious boyfriend). To think I was looking out for him as you should not give out your CVV number out to anyone, this is the thanks I get.
So working from home is extremely difficult and I have had first hand experience with Godaddy the other day when there was a screaming baby in the room of the call handler, it is not only embarrassing but unprofessional but what can you do in these troubled times. The woman I spoke too seemed very flustered as she was not concentrating on me but trying to find a way to quieten the infant down. I was obviously very patient and tried to reassure her that I understood what it is like juggling work in an home/office environment.
What I cannot understand that these Corporate Giants that have so much money they do not know what to do with themselves cannot integrate Chat Online Widgets. It is not hard to do and anyone can login and chat but for some reason like I found out today Google are not taking calls for Adwords or Online Chat. So if you have an urgent matter you have to schedule a call back which can be anything up to five days away, very infuriating. If I have chat widget intergrated and all the businesses I manage have chat what is their excuse?
My rant last time about Grocery Supermarkets was about vulnerable people not having deliveries and about cross contamination.
You will be pleased to know my deliveries have been re-instated but wait for this…….The delivery arrived today and my daughter greeted the two delivery men of which one of them coughed straight in her face.
You would think that all drivers should wear gloves and face masks but obviously they do not.
She is now worried about cross contamination and if he is a carrier or not.
Do all the staff get tested on a daily basis?, I do not think so and when they deliver the groceries they should abide by the 2 metre rule but they do not.
So does that mean if my daughter contracts the virus because of this individual that we can then sue the Grocery Supermarket Company?
I hope and pray for their sake it does not come to this and that my daughter is going to be OK.
It seems that I am I banging my head against a brick wall as everyone seems to be behaving like sheep and saying because “Simple Simon Says” they have to follow and not use their own initiatives.
All I can say is another blog post is heading to the CEO yet again….
Companies that do not have human interaction are cowards if you ask me. Any company offering public services should show they care and have empathy for their customers by having online chat at least.
Companies that are too large for their boots and think they can play God with people should not exist, yet they do. I always think if I was a search engine or social media platform how would I behave. I would have online chat at least. I would obviously prompt people to try and find the answers via the FAQ forum themselves and if after that they still needed to ask a question I would help them.
But these corporate gorilla’s just do not care.
If I offered a public service I would not discriminate in order not to face litigation proceedings against me.
Do not pick an choose who you want to serve.
I refer to my previous post about corporate gorillas who can do what they want with you and if they do not want you to do business with them for whatever reason they will make it extremely difficult for you. Yet if these companies which are owned by the public then they should not discriminate but they do.
So what is this rant over today, well I will tell you, although I do not know why for the life of me why this has happened and cannot get hold of anyone to find out to resolve the issue….
The notification is as follows:
“Your advertising access is restricted • You’re no longer allowed to use Facebook Products to advertise. You can’t run ads, manage advertising assets, or create new ad or business accounts”.
Who the hell do they think they are?
To dictate and to interfere with my business as I manage Facebook Pages for my clients is beyond unbelievable, do not dictate what I should or should not do unless it is a breach of your T&C’s.
If this is not reinstated I will be suing Facebook for loss of business and I welcome any other business having similar problems to also contact me, together we can face these bullies and stand up to them.
Yes you heard me I will be suing Facebook if my advertising is not reinstated.
If you do not like your new image do not be a bully and re-instate my advertising and I may consider taking it down at my sole discretion……….it works both way, see how you like it having an image of you on my blog which depicts who you are in which I have sole control over!!
You can DM me to get my details and ask me to take the image down and reinstate my advertising or you will be hearing from my lawyers.
Imagine having so much power that you can destroy people’s lives. I will not be naming these companies in my text content as it is readable but you will get the gist of whom I am referring to by the first letter of their name.
Gorrilla NO1: Imagine owning a search engine and refusing to take down a search result that is inaccurate with the potential to cause the person harm if it continued to be listed. Well that is what has happened to me and although I would love to spill the beans on this I cannot right now for legal reasons, but I am planning to take Gorilla NO1 (G Search Engine) to the European Court of Human Rights. I was planning physically going to my solicitor before the coranvirus-covid-19 outbreak and was planning on sending some documents. Because of this I cannot meet him physically for him to stamp some documents, but this can wait as it has already caused me damage to my business, so whats another few months waiting, it’s not as if I can fly anywhere anyway. But the people I do not want them to see the search result, may have already done so with them having too much time on their hands right now because of isolation and may be even more so researching and may stumble across the said search result which is inaccurate. I want to simply cry just thinking about it.
Gorilla NO2: Moving on the next Gorilla in the room is (F Social Media) in which I do not use very often for personal use and more so to manage business pages, but never the less innocently I posted a video of a notorious journalist in the UK that seems to be deemed as dangerous for spreading hate crimes. Watching his videos I do not beieve he is what they (Coroparte Bullies and the Deep State) claim him to be but more so a target of the Corporate Bullies whom just want to shut him up. The video was about this very same journalist apprehending some thugs that were coughing and spitting into an elderly couples faces. This I thought was good journalism to show what idiots we have growing up as our next generation. I thought it was good he defended the couple in the video yet (F) sent me a message to me today saying that I had promoted hate crimes and that I could not post anything for 30 days. There was nothing hateful about the video other than the thugs coughing and spitting in the faces of the ederly couple and I certainly was not condoning this with the thugs for sure. Yet (F) who also think they are God can pull the rug from right under you and assumed that I was in same way promoting this evil even though my my caption even stated I was furious at what I had seen and was disgusted by our younger generation whom simply do not have respect for their elders. . What if I want to post something on behalf of my clients business pages they have now actively interfered in my business and when anyone does that I see red and I cannot do it for the next 30 day……totally pathetic if you ask me and the only way I could most probably do anything about this if I was very rich then they would see me in a different light.
Gorillan NO3: It has been going round on the internet that all coronavirus and covid-19 domain names are being blocked. I in fact was brokering such a domain name and had found a buyer this one particular day, set up Escrow.com and after vetting this individual the next day the domain was flagged. The owner was selling t-shirts but now the domain is flagged as a phising site.
I usually post on (F Business Pages) and on (L Social Media for Businesses) where I hangout the most and have noticed that everytime I mentioned the domain name as an example to my other clients the keywords where being highlighted as a warning.
So Gorilla No3, being (L) has started blocking some of my posts one which had a video of ‘David Icke’, apparantly it is rummoured he was spreading fake news, yet I watched his video and he not once metioned anything dergatory, you can search him up on Youtube. Then there was the video of the journalist ‘TR’ and the Coronavirus Domain name that I was actively trying to sell for a genuine entrepreneur, who was selling t-shirts.
What is stopping any individual not that I am encouraging it in the slightest but merely making a point that one could easily make a sub domain with the flagged keywords to spread fake news, if one was that way inclined,? Would that mean Gorilla NO1 will then start blocking all sites that have the flagged keywords in the content aswell?
Surely there is a more transparent way of dealing with this and make an announcement that all of these new flagged domain names should only exist if the user purchases a license similar to the Bitcoin Domain Names some time ago.
My final thoughts on this is that these Corporate Giants do not care if you you can bring food to the table or not, they will do whatever they want with you and everything you write or post about is monitored.
For my own peace of mind I am not re-sharing the videos, you will just have to do your own research, sorry folks, as I know that making waves only causes more problems, so I am tackling each Gorilla one at a time.
I have little respect for companies that do not do their research and assume inacurate information and just simply block you because they can.
There is no freedom of speech anymore and the best part is that these companies are faceless meaning they have done it in a way you cannot just pick up the phone and complain, even going to the lengths of even not allowing to send emails. These companies to me are cowards. With the millions of people unemployed in this world they should have online chat at least. Yet they say they have your best interests at heart, this is complete nonsense, all they care about is making a profit and nothing else.